Monday, December 17, 2012

Where's the support?

I just deleted a very hurtful comment from my blog regarding my struggle with breastfeeding and that I should just get off my high horse and give my baby the nutrients she needs.

I don't understand why people leave nasty comments when this should be a community of support.

What this poster needs to know:
- I have gone to get her weighed every week since birth
- I have been supplementing with pumped breast milk since her 2nd week of birth
- Each time I have gone, I have asked about formula and each time the nurse practitioner said NOT THERE YET...keep trying she is GAINING
- the very day she and I agree it is time to supplement with formula I do - keeping my baby healthy is my NUMBER ONE PRIORITY

The reason it is bothering me so much is because of feelings of inadequacy that I have with MY BODY given everything I have been through.

Why would anyone say anything to imply I am being selfish and not doing what's best for my baby.  This hits a raw nerve because it is EXACTLY the same sentiments my mother said to me yesterday.  Why can't a mother mourn her goal of exclusive breastfeeding?

Thank you for questioning my parenting abilities and priorities.  Thank you for assuming I am being a bad mother and that I'm on a high horse for trying to breast feed.  I guess if one is infertile and can't conceive naturally and they take herbs/medication to help get pregnant they are on a high horse too?  I mean..they could always adopt...being a parent is being a parent right?  (please note sarcasm).  Everyone has goals and they try to achieve those goals and will try everything before giving up. My babies health was NOT in jeopardy - if I wasn't working so closely with medical professionals then maybe - but I was following their directions exactly.  

This just makes me want to stop blogging altogether.  Ugh.


  1. I am so sorry. Rest assured if I had seen that comment I would definitely have stuck up for you. Was it anonymous? That's usually the way cowards attack others.

    Everyone thinks they are experts on parenting, when in reality, we are all experts on parenting OUR OWN KIDS. You know your child better than anyone else.

    Ignore the haters.

  2. I'm sorry too Amanda!! But your support is here! I don't have much to contribute never have breaatfeesig before, however this is my number one fear wih my newborn, that I will have problems with this! I understand how hard it is for some people, and have real life friends that have had issues, and know how important it is.

    I can honestly say that you have tried harder than anyone I have known with professional support, and doing it the right way. You should not have to defend yourself on your blog, and please don't let the commenter discourage your blogging!

    Take care, and hoping things turn around. That commenter is surely not helping your stress level and you don't need that right now!


  3. Why do some people have to be so mean?? I thin that there are some people out there who troll blogs and look for opportunities to shed their negativity. Your blog is a place for you to express your thoughts and get advice from others. Whoever left the nasty comment can...well you know. I wish I had some advice for you, but unfortunately I have not gotten to breastfeed yet. I think you are doing a fantastic job. From everything I have heard and read, it isn't an easy task! I am sure I will be asking for advice from you in the coming months. Take care, and know that you are trying the best you can and doing a great job. Keep up the good work mama! xoxo

  4. Keep calm and carry on with the Breast feeding. It will get better. Relax with the knowledge in your heart that you are doing good for your baby. Whether you breast feed for a day, a month or a year it all helps baby. Most people have issues at first and negative comments don't help, so ignore...mother knows best !

  5. I just read your blog for the first time just now, I found it while blog hopping. I want you to know you are an amazing mom for sticking with breastfeeding. It sounds like you're doing everything right. Don't hang in the towel. My baby (now 6 months old) had the same issues. I stopped breastfeeding and pumped instead. It was so I could regain my sanity. After one month of giving her breastmilk in a bottle we tried breastfeeding again. Things clicked better with us and it's all good now.
    You are awesome for doing what is best for your baby!

    Haley B.
    Portland, OR